Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

The theme template I put on my blog came with this post that read ‘Be yourself’, Oscar Wilde didn’t live in 2019 to understand that the pressure of fitting in is so much that we can’t possibly be ourselves and dare to stand out. There were far too less people during those days and no social media, so I’ll forgive Wilde for that.

I am an absolutely messed up and still surviving 20-something, like you. So hi. I hope I don’t ever have to meet you because I really enjoy my time sitting in the bed and scrolling Instagram for dogs, memes and dog memes but I do hope that this brings you some peace with consolation that you’re not alone. No, sire! You’re not the only one with parents who don’t understand you, treat you like a child but expect an adult behaviour in return, a lot of us have shitty friends too who are nice most of the times but are absolute assholes that we can’t help but love. Yes, my job is a wreck too, and to tell you a little better news I quit the firm to stay home and write this. LoL no! I quit to look for “better opportunities” but apparently, lawyers are supposed to work 16 hours a day and somehow survive on an intern salary. You guys, I really hope this makes you feel better to know that there are so many Instagram “influencers” who “made it big” because their Gujju Pappas are loaded, so please don’t be too hard on yourself.

I studied from one of the “most premier law schools” (yes, I’m mocking it) and I get rejected by HRs who did an MBA from some shitty college because their engineering degrees couldn’t get them jobs. Like bro, do you even know what my field is about? What do you even understand in my resume? Just do your job and forward it to the Partner, what do you understand by my one year M&A experience?

Anyway, your sucky life is not entirely your fault, we’re victims of a broken economy and messed up work culture. Okay, it is our fault too sometimes but I need you to be able to see the difference between your mistakes and flaws in today’s culture. The latter is not your burden to carry, you can and MUST forgive yourself for the errors of the system. What this exercise will do is let you free from the things that are out of your control and give you more time and more importantly, the mental space, to work on your personal flaws, and trust me, it is so very satisfying to actually overcome something bad. It doesn’t only make you better but also gives you the right motivational push to wake up for a brighter day and start working on yourself again.

In this process, you would have created a chain of identifying your flaws and using the improvement of the same to work on the next one in line. It’s a beautiful journey, one of the very few in this wretched world of blame-the-millennials culture.

We can’t change everything but we can change ourselves, improve a little everyday. Don’t let anxiety get the best of you, we have so much more that we still don’t know. All the best, suckers :*